Dee BrunAward Winning Author, Libations of Life, A Girls Guide to Life One Cocktail at a Time.
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When it comes to eating out, who makes the decisions in your family?
In my family, it is all me…the less choices my husband has to make the better he likes it.
It is very rare now days that I eat at a chain restaurant, for many different reasons. I managed one for way too long, so many times all their food tastes the same and they always lack originality.
However, every now and then, out of desperation and convenience, I dine at a “Big Box” restaurant. Another rarity is getting to have a meal alone with my husband, so I wasn’t about to be picky. We headed to Moxie’s Bar and Grill. It was not my first time at a Moxie’s, however the last time I visited one there was nothing that made me want to rush back. On my first visit I had sat in the lounge and was served by a highly over exposed cocktail server. You could of parked a bike in the amount of cleavage she was showing and her mini skirt (which for the record I thought was just a wide belt). Forced her to transform from cocktail server to Cirque du Soleil performer when she dropped my menu and had to contort herself in such a way to pick it up. Gives a whole new meaning to “Big Box” restaurant.
Now to be fair the lounge is 18+, no kids are allowed in there. I am also not a prude and have worn my share of flesh money outfits when I bartended at nightclubs back in the day. I am going somewhere with this …
This time my husband and I sat in the restaurant portion of Moxie’s. Where we were served by a lovely young girl with long flowing hair, cute pants and a lovely blouse. At first glance, a lovely ensemble, I even commented on her pretty necklace. As the lunch went on I started to really look around the restaurant, and then it hit me…Every woman working here is wearing HEELS…HIGH HEELS..the servers, the hostesses, the cocktail servers from the lounge. WHO by the way, run food to the dining room with their bicycle cleavage and wide belts…So even though there is a kids menu available, I think I will keep mine away from the “Big Box” restaurant. The only people on the floor NOT wearing high heels where the male servers…With their snappy black chinos they were gliding comfortably across the floor in plain black loafers. That seems hardly fair.
So…because I am me and just HAVE to know…I ask our server..
Me- “Do they MAKE you wear those shoes?”
Her- “Yes, we all have to wear heels, 2 1/2 inches or higher.”
…………………………………………(insert the sound of my jaw hitting the table)…………………………………..
Her- “Yes, their dress code policy is super strict here. All the girls have to wear their hair, down, heels, a necklace and a watch.”
………………………….(again Gobsmaked silence)……………………….
Ok..let’s just take a health and safety break here..
ALL GIRLS HAVE TO WEAR THEIR HAIR DOWN……….
Now that I am passed the ICK factor..
The lovely server can see the look of “Are you F%$#ing kidding me?” that is not so well hidden on my face and quickly tries to back peddle.
Her- ” Oh it was painful the first few weeks but now I don’t even notice the heels or the uniform policy. Can I get you another beer?”
Nice trying to distract me with booze…cus it normally works…that and shiny objects. But my experience is now totally ruined. By this time my husband was called away and my meal was about as interesting as math class…I have now Googled Moxie’s Uniform Policy…and to my lunch time delight I found this little gem of an article from the Toronto Sun…I know I know, using the Toronto Sun as a reference point is like fact checking on TMZ..but it is worth the read none the less.
I think I have lost my point and turned this into a hap hearted restaurant review slash What do you think?
Are restaurants STILL getting away with sexism, ageism, racism? Doubt Moxie’s would hire you if you could not show your long flowing hair…
Do you pay attention to this when choosing a restaurant for you and your family?
For the record I have not dined at a Boston Pizza in years because the “Family Restaurant” has girls my daughters age working in what I would call “Wide Belts”. The last time we were there my then 4 year old daughter commented…
“Mom I saw that worker girls underwear and these crayons are crappy…”
The Boston Pizza uniform is not surprising when you see the way the owner Jim Treliving ogles and drools when women come on the Dragon’s Den.
So concludes my rant…Was it a rant? I have no clue… What I do know is that I have added yet another sad “Big Box” restaurant to my list of places NOT to eat…
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A couple years ago I tweeted a pic of my wine with a bowl of chips and stated it was my perfect wine pairing…The response I received from people, telling me their favorite Wine & Chip combo was CRAZY! Who knew so many people loved to drink wine with their chips…? Turns put about 50% of them…MY PEOPLE !!!
This delicious full bodied wine…coupled with the simple flavor and unique crunch of Original Recipe …Is the perfect pairing for a night of ACTION…movies that is. Weather your Mission is Impossible or you are ready to be Bourne again…This will be the perfect match for an evening of excitement on the couch….
Sauvignon Blanc + Lime and Black Pepper
This white has crisp tropical notes…So fly to a beach IMMEDIATELY!! Or..Pair it up with an evening in and a good drama…Then you can be The Judge on whether or not this is the pairing for you…
Merlot + Balsamic Vinegar Sweet Onion
This wine is bright and fruity…So they are perfect to be paired with the tangy sweetness of these chips. The fun vibe of this pairing is perfect for a night of laughter. So call all your Bridesmaids over for a girls night in and figure out exactly when Harry did meet Sally.
Pinot Grigio + Seal Salt and Malt Vinegar
There is a crisp nectarine and peach flavor to this wine which pairs so well with the acidic tang from the salt and malt vinegar. This yin and yang is the best companion for a night of reality television. So you can bet that Big Brother is watching your Amazing Race to the bottle of the bottle and the bag.
Whatever your taste have fun with these pairings, mix and match and let me know your favorite pairings. If you are on Twitter or Instagram be sure to snap a shot of your pairings and hash tag them #UnwindTogether ..Would love to see what you are enjoying, also what you are watching these days, I am always looking for new TV show to obsess over.
This past summer my neighbor was over served at a local pub, went home, fell down the stairs and died. It was a horrible, senseless and preventable tragedy that tore a family apart.
So when RIDE Checks asked me to be a part of their campaign this year…Just like not dhttp://www.cocktaildeeva.com/wp-admin/post-new.phprinking and driving…it was a NO BRAINER.
Over serving at restaurants and bars happens all too often. Bar owners, servers and bartenders all want to make the customer happy. Let’s face it, telling someone they have had too much to drink is uncomfortable at best. Also let’s not forget the money making aspect of this.
In 1972 the Supreme Court of Canada decided there was a “special relationship” between a bar and it’s patrons because: as stated on Canada Safety Council.org
“The bar “invites” the patron to use its premises to buy and drink alcohol. There is a duty or responsibility on the bar to ensure that there is no “foreseeable” harm that occurs to the patron because of what the bar does (serving alcohol to a patron when he is visibly intoxicated and then ejecting him) and what it fails to do (take preventative steps – offer a ride or call a taxi or police).”
Establishments now have a “Duty of Care” for it’s patrons.
So what happens when you invite people into your home to consume alcohol? Do you as, the host, have a ‘duty of care’? Does your home or office party fall under the ‘special relationship law’?
What exactly is a ‘socialhost?”
A definition could include anyone who: as per Canada Safety Council.org
1. is not selling or supplying alcohol for profit;
2. is not an employer, or any position in which he or she has a unique relationship with his or her guests; and
is serving alcohol or condoning the service/consumption of alcohol on premises over which he or she has control.
Then there is the whole B.Y.O.B issue. Are you liable if people bring their own booze?
Unfortunately there is no exact answer. This whole area is as grey as it gets. However there have been many people successfully sued and found liable as a ‘social host’.
The real question is, how can you protect yourself this holiday season and really have your guests “Party Safe”?
Here are my tips for being a responsible Social Host…
As the host, don’t over serve yourself. Limit your alcohol consumption throughout the party in order to pay closer attention to your guests.
Avoid a self serve bar. I am all for hiring a bartender for the evening who has alcohol training.
Have MANY non-alcoholic selections. Create a signature Mocktail Punch for the evening.
Say hi and bye! This one is SO important. Greet all your guests to get a feel for if they have already been drinking. Say bye to EVERY single person that leaves your home to gauge how they are acting and see if maybe they need a alternate ride home.
Have a spare bed or a couch.
Only TIME will sober someone up. Not coffee or a slice of pizza or cold shower. It’s all about how much alcohol is in the blood stream.
One last thing to remember…If you have a guest that you feel is intoxicated and they refuse to take a taxi and insist on driving. You MUST call the police. It may seem dramatic but it is your ‘Duty of Care’ to do so. Imagine how dramatic an accident would be.
” I don’t end friendships over difference of opinion though.”…
“I would hope that you wouldn’t, I don’t either. The world would be a very lonely place if we did that.”…
This is a snippet from some comments I received the other day and it got me thinking…
When the CBC fired JG…MANY people I knew jumped to his defense. Bashing the CBC, criticizing them for judging his bedroom habits and vowing to vindicate him. And why wouldn’t they? The CBC did fire him for what seemed, at the time because he liked rough sex. There was no other information expect a story of he said she said from the media. People simply had an opinion…people responded in the heat of the moment…I know this one all to well…
After the rest of the started coming out and is still coming out, I saw retraction after retraction. “I am sorry for what I said” … “I apologize for my comments”…
If someone did something horrible to a friend or someone I respected, damn certain I would just to their defense in a heart beat not know all the facts. I would hope there are people in my life that would do the same for me. And if it came out after that they were a violent cowardly douche…I would be so sad.
However I certainly hope people wouldn’t judge me or unfriend me because I was defending a friend at the time. But this is exactly what I saw happen…People ending friendships over a difference of opinion, a split second opinion coming from a place of almost protection for someone you admire or care for. If you still support the coward now then we definitely can’t be friends…
But now..after seeing all this unfold…
Would you still defend someone? Someone you are friends with or admire? Will you wait for all the facts? Does it depend on what they have done? Are we now so afraid of what others will think we can no longer freely express an opinion…? Or do we have to sensor ourselves to ensure our opinion is crafted carefully as not to offend? OMG what if someone doesn’t like me?
Is it all in HOW we say it rather than what we say now?
Cat pictures and video makes me want to chew glass… I have now possible offended the over 200 MILLION people who have viewed the videos. What about…Cat pictures and videos are really not my favorite thing to watch.Sounds much better…but it’s not what I wanted to express…I want to express that I would rather have glass shards embedded in my tongue that watch a cat video. Just my opinion.
The same can be said for Starbucks cup pictures and daily selfies (except for 365feminism that shit has a point other than your perfect duck face). All glass chewing worthy events, in my opinion.
I know the same thing can and is said about things I post..People HATE food pictures..I adore them. To many shoe porn is an utter waste of space, to me it puts me in my happy place. We ALL have different opinions.
The internet is filled with anonymous trolls some anonymous and some not and someone will always try and get your back up…I get that and it will never change.
It just seems to me that we are now editing ourselves before we even put pen to paper…We are thinking about what the comments “might be” before we even know what we want to write…We craft our comments and replies like well oiled PR machines as no to offend…Why would I be offended if you post a honest comment about your opinion? Why would I be offended if you are offering me insight to something I may not know? I could actually learn something.
“I would love to leave a comment and tell you how I really feel but I am afraid someone will screen shot it and use it against me.”
REALLY? This is the evolution of having on online voice…
HAVE A VOICE
USE YOUR VOICE
BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF
“I am sorry but I have to disagree..”
Quite possibly my least favorite thing I read in blog post comments…Why are you sorry you disagree? Are you just a polite Canadian? Why are we all sorry for having an opinion? Is there a”list’ now days for people with opinions? You know how much I love getting on Lists!
Is there a way to write what the hell you want to write anymore? Are we all now Bubble Wrapped Bloggers? Editing ourselves with everything we post on line because we care so much about what people (many who we will never know or meet) think about us?
It seems on line reading has become more about , who said what in the comments, than what was actually said in the article.
But seriously…who even reads or comments on blogs anymore…………………
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I stock your room with FABOOSH local ingredients , fresh breads, pastries, eggs, bacon, fruit, juice, tea, coffee etc…and you make your own breakfast at your leisure..At NO TIME do I ever cook for you…
You have your own private entrance, you get your own key and you come and go freely. At NO time are you in my home…However you can join me for cocktails on the porch…
It’s a B&B only better…because you get your privacy and there is no awkward ..”I’m in someones house” stuff…
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