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  • ALCOHOL MYTHBUSTERS

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    “I can drink way more beer before I am drunk.”
    “I have a super high tolerance for alcohol.”
    “I drink only white wine, it’s light and has less alcohol.”

    In my , far too many to mention, years of working with and writing about alcohol and parties. I am sure I have heard every reason why someone can “drink more” and still be “ok” to drive. I have also heard at least 500 ways you can INSTANTLY sober up so you can drive home.

    The truth of the matter is, none of these reasons or ways are true. People tend to forget that feeling “OK” to drive has absolutely nothing to do with, well “Feeling”.

    How many times have you heard this one…

    “Hey Bob you ok to drive?”
    “Ya no worries I feel fine…”

    Quite frankly, Bob is clueless. That is unless Bob has a super power and can feel what his blood alcohol level is.

    dreamstime_12040223Here are some facts about BAC (Blood Alcohol Concentration)
    (from http://www.mto.gov.on.ca)

    In Ontario and the rest of Canada, the maximum legal BAC for fully licensed drivers is 80 milligrams of alcohol in 100 millilitres of blood (0.08). Driving with BAC in excess of 0.08 is a criminal offence. BAC levels are affected by many factors, including:

    • How fast you drink. Alcohol consumed quickly will result in a higher BAC than when consumed over a long period of time.
    • Gender. Women generally have less water and more body fat per pound of body weight than men. Alcohol does not go into fat cells as easily as other cells, so more alcohol remains in the blood of women.
    • Body weight. The more you weigh, the more water is present in your body. This water dilutes the alcohol and lowers the BAC.
    Amount of food in your stomach. Absorption is slowed if you’ve had something to eat.

    A NOTE HERE…at just 0.05 BAC a persons vision may already be affected.
    How much can I drink before I reach the 0.05 BAC limit?

    The number of drinks consumed is a poor measure of BAC because of the many factors affecting your body’s ability to digest alcohol, such as weight, body fat, and how long ago and how much you ate. Factors like tiredness and your mood can also make a difference in how alcohol affects your driving ability.
    Here are a few things to keep in mind and keep you and those you love safe.

    A glass of wine white or red, a bottle of beer, and a shot of whiskey or other distilled spirits all contain equivalent amounts of alcohol and are the same to a Breathalyzer. A standard drink is:
    • A 12-ounce bottle or can of regular beer
    • A 5-ounce glass of wine
    • A one and 1/2 ounce of 80 proof distilled spirits (either straight or in a mixed drink)
    And for all those “How to get sober Quick” ideas…

    Drinking coffee, sweating it out or a cold shower will NOT help a drunk person sober up. Only TIME can sober up a person. Alcohol leaves almost everyones body at a rate of about .015 percent of blood alcohol content (BAC) per hour.
    So someone with a BAC of .015 can be sober in an hour while someone with a BAC of .15 would need 10 hours to sober up. This is true no matter your sex, age or weight.

    REMEMBER … You can still have an over the limit BAC THE MORNING AFTER the party! Ride checks know this and are out working the roads at ALL hours of the day and night. Give yourself the proper amount of time to sober up!

    To put it quite simply…If you plan on driving…forget all the math, science and biology mumbo jumbo you just read…Just DON’T DRINK…easy peasy!

    Cheers and have a FABOOSH HOLIDAY SEASON!!

    Party Safe xo

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    When it comes to eating out, who makes the decisions in your family?

    In my family, it is all me…the less choices my husband has to make the better he likes it.

    It is very rare now days that I eat at a chain restaurant, for many different reasons. I managed one for way too long, so many times all their food tastes the same and they always lack originality.

    However, every now and then, out of desperation and convenience, I dine at a “Big Box” restaurant. Another rarity is getting to have a meal alone with my husband, so I wasn’t about to be picky.  We headed to Moxie’s Bar and Grill. It was not my first time at a Moxie’s, however the last time I visited one there was nothing that made me want to rush backPhoto. On my first visit I had sat in the lounge and was served by a highly over exposed cocktail server. You could of parked a bike in the amount of cleavage she was showing and her mini skirt (which for the record I thought was just a wide belt). Forced her to transform from cocktail server to Cirque du Soleil performer when she dropped my menu and had to contort herself in such a way to pick it up. Gives a whole new meaning to “Big Box” restaurant.

    Now to be fair the lounge is 18+, no kids are allowed in there. I am also not a prude and have worn my share of flesh money outfits when I bartended at nightclubs back in the day. I am going somewhere with this …

    This time my husband and I sat in the restaurant portion of Moxie’s. Where we were served by a lovely young girl with long flowing hair, cute pants and a lovely blouse. At first ddglance, a lovely ensemble, I even commented on her pretty necklace. As the lunch went on I started to really look around the restaurant, and then it hit me…Every woman working here is wearing HEELS…HIGH HEELS..the servers, the hostesses, the cocktail servers from the lounge. WHO by the way, run food to the dining room with their bicycle cleavage and wide belts…So even though there is a kids menu available, I think I will keep mine away from the “Big Box” restaurant. The only people on the floor NOT wearing high heels where the male servers…With their snappy black chinos they were gliding comfortably across the floor in plain black loafers. That seems hardly fair.

    So…because I am me and just HAVE to know…I ask our server..

    Me- “Do they MAKE you wear those shoes?”

    Her- “Yes, we all have to wear heels, 2 1/2 inches or higher.”

    …………………………………………(insert the sound of my jaw hitting the table)…………………………………..

    Me- “Seriously?”

    Her- “Yes, their dress code policy is super strict here. All the girls have to wear their hair, down, heels, a necklace and a watch.”

    ………………………….(again Gobsmaked silence)……………………….

     

    Ok..let’s just take a health and safety break here..

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    Now that I am passed the ICK factor..

    The lovely server can see the look of “Are you F%$#ing kidding me?”  that is not so well hidden on my face and quickly tries to back peddle.

    Her- ” Oh it was painful the first few weeks but now I don’t even notice the heels or the uniform policy. Can I get you another beer?”

    Nice trying to distract me with booze…cus it normally works…that and shiny objects. But my experience is now totally ruined. By this time my husband was called away and my meal was about as interesting as math class…I have now Googled Moxie’s Uniform Policy…and to my lunch time delight I found this little gem of an article from the Toronto Sun…I know I know, using the Toronto Sun as a reference point is like fact checking on TMZ..but it is worth the read none the less.

    I think I have lost my point and turned this into a hap hearted restaurant review slash What do you think?

    Are restaurants STILL getting away with sexism, ageism, racism? Doubt Moxie’s would hire you if you could not show your long flowing hair…

    Do you pay attention to this when choosing a restaurant for you and your family?

    For the record I have not dined at a Boston Pizza in years because the “Family Restaurant” has girls my daughters age working in what I would call “Wide Belts”. The last time we were there my then 4 year old daughter commented…

    “Mom I saw that worker girls underwear and these crayons are crappy…”

    The Boston Pizza uniform is not surprising when you see the way the owner Jim Treliving ogles and drools when women come on the Dragon’s Den.

    So concludes my rant…Was it a rant? I have no clue… What I do know is that I have added yet another sad “Big Box” restaurant to my list of places NOT to eat…

     

  • THE SOCIAL HOST

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    This past summer my neighbor was over served at a local pub, went home, fell down the stairs and died. It was a horrible, senseless and preventable tragedy that tore a family apart.

    So when RIDE Checks asked me to be a part of their campaign this year…Just like not dhttp://www.cocktaildeeva.com/wp-admin/post-new.phprinking and driving…it was a NO BRAINER.

    Over serving at restaurants and bars happens all too often. Bar owners, servers and bartenders all want to make the customer happy. Let’s face it, telling someone they have had too much to drink is uncomfortable at best. Also let’s not forget the money making aspect of this.

    In 1972 the Supreme Court of Canada decided there was a “special relationship” between a bar and it’s patrons because: as stated on Canada Safety Council.org

    “The bar “invites” the patron to use its premises to buy and drink alcohol. There is a duty or responsibility on the bar to ensure that there is no “foreseeable” harm that occurs to the patron because of what the bar does (serving alcohol to a patron when he is visibly intoxicated and then ejecting him) and what it fails to do (take preventative steps – offer a ride or call a taxi or police).”
    Establishments now have a “Duty of Care” for it’s patrons.

    So what happens when you invite people into your home to consume alcohol? Do you as, the host, have a ‘duty of care’? Does your home or office party fall under the ‘special relationship law’?

    What exactly is a ‘socialhost?”

    A definition could include anyone who: as per Canada Safety Council.org
    1. is not selling or supplying alcohol for profit;
    2. is not an employer, or any position in which he or she has a unique relationship with his or her guests; and
    is serving alcohol or condoning the service/consumption of alcohol on premises over which he or she has control.

    Then there is the whole B.Y.O.B issue. Are you liable if people bring their own booze?
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    Unfortunately there is no exact answer. This whole area is as grey as it gets. However there have been many people successfully sued and found liable as a ‘social host’.

    The real question is, how can you protect yourself this holiday season and really have your guests “Party Safe”?

    Here are my tips for being a responsible Social Host…

    As the host, don’t over serve yourself. Limit your alcohol consumption throughout the party in order to pay closer attention to your guests.

    Avoid a self serve bar. I am all for hiring a bartender for the evening who has alcohol training.

    Have MANY non-alcoholic selections. Create a signature Mocktail Punch for the evening.

    Say hi and bye! This one is SO important. Greet all your guests to get a feel for if they have already been drinking. Say bye to EVERY single person that leaves your home to gauge how they are acting and see if maybe they need a alternate ride home.

    Have a spare bed or a couch.

    Only TIME will sober someone up. Not coffee or a slice of pizza or cold shower. It’s all about how much alcohol is in the blood stream.

    One last thing to remember…If you have a guest that you feel is intoxicated and they refuse to take a taxi and insist on driving. You MUST call the police. It may seem dramatic but it is your ‘Duty of Care’ to do so. Imagine how dramatic an accident would be.

    For more great Party Safe ideas and to learn more about RIDE Checks check out their website www.ridechecks.com 

    You can also find them on Facebook and follow them on Twitter…

    For more information on who, how and when you are liable as a ‘Social Host’ be sure to check out www.canadasafetycouncil.org/traffic-safety/social-host-liability

     

    HAPPY HOLIDAYS and #PartySafe
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